people think of “being alone” as a bad thing. It either means you’re
anti-social, or unwanted, neither of which are a good position to be in.
But actually, being alone
isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing, as there are a handful of benefits that emerge
once you learn to embrace solitude.
I’m not advocating you go
all Tom Hanks in Cast Away, because no one can argue the benefits,
and the joys, that come along with fulfilling relationships with other people.
But I am saying that once
you learn to enjoy being alone, you’re going to grow as a person.
Below are ten amazing
things that will happen in your life when you start to enjoy being alone.
1. You’ll get to recharge.
Often times when we’re
surrounded by other people, we’re expending a lot of energy. Trying to keep
others happy, make them laugh, soothe their egos, read their emotions, and all
of the other rigors that come along with regular interaction.
It can be mentally draining
if you’re constantly connected to other people. A little alone time lets
you recharge and take a break from the emotionally and mentally taxing job of
2. You’ll reflect more often.
Your life is always moving
at a crazy fast pace. So fast in fact, that it’s probably rare when you have a
moment alone to sit and reflect on your life.
Being alone gives you the
perfect opportunity for a little self reflection. Since you aren’t spending so
much time processing the thoughts and feelings of others, it’s the best time to
turn your focus inwards.
Solitude provides the
perfect environment for reflection.
3. You’ll get in touch with your own emotions.
Again, when you’re
surrounded by other people all the time, you’re constantly trying to read, and
cater to, the other persons’s emotions. So much so, that you could end up
losing touch with your own.
When you start to enjoy
being alone, you’ll gain a greater perspective for your own emotions. You’ll
create a deeper understanding of what makes you happy, what upsets you, and
what saddens you.
With that knowledge, it’s
then easier to regulate your emotions. But it all starts with understanding how
you feel, and that comes from a little bit of solitude.
4. You’ll start doing things you actually enjoy.
When you’re constantly in
the company of other people, you’re always making compromises in order to find
solutions that the entire group can enjoy. And unfortunately, the things you want
most, may not always line up with what the group wants.
So it’s easy to enjoy being
alone once you realize that doing so gives you more freedom to do the
things you actually want to do.
5. You’ll become more productive.
Being in the company of
other people can be fun and entertaining, but it can also seriously affect your
productivity. There are times when the company of other people acts as nothing
more than a distraction from getting your work done.
Time spent alone can be
some of the most productive time in your life—mostly because there are less
distractions, and you can just put your head down and get to work.
6. You’ll enjoy your relationships even more.
When you spend time alone
on a regular basis, and eventually start to enjoy being alone, you’ll come to
find that you also enjoy your relationships with other people even more.
And that’s because the time
spent alone gives you a greater appreciation for yourself.
But it also let’s you
appreciate all the great things that come from your relationships with other
people, most of which you were oblivious to before.
7. You’ll feel more independent.
Once you enjoy being alone,
you’ll feel more confident in your ability to actually be alone. And that
naturally leads to you feeling more independent.
You’ll no longer feel that
anxiety, or burning desire for company, once you learn to enjoy being alone.
You won’t feel the need for constant interaction with other people, or the
anxiety associated with looking around and seeing no one but yourself.
8. You’ll get a break from constantly trying to keep other people
Life is filled with
relationships, and most relationships only last when both people are kept
happy. And that can turn into a draining job depending who that relationship is
with. Now, this does’t only apply to personal relationships, but every kind of
Once you’re alone, the only
person’s happiness you have to worry about in that moment, is your own. You can
treat yourself to thing that makes you happy, but may have upset someone else.
9. You won’t have to apologize for anything.
When you start to enjoy
being alone, you’ll quickly see that solitude means you don’t have to keep
apologizing for what you’ve done. So often, we do things that end up upsetting
other people, or hurting someone else’s feelings, and then have to quickly
apologize for it.
But when you’re alone, you
don’t have to apologize for anything. And that takes a lot of pressure out of
most situations. You get to stop second guessing everything you say, or every
move you make because you’re afraid someone is going to be offended, or
saddened, and angered.
10. You’ll stop looking for validation.
So often we feel we the
need to get the “OK” from our friends and family before we take action. We
constantly look to other people for advice on what we should do next.
Of course, there are times
where it’s not only perfectly acceptable to ask for advice, but downright
necessary. But there are also times where we’re perfectly capable of acting on
our own, be we instead of looking to others for an answer.
When you start to spend
more time alone, you’ll learn to trust your instincts and make decisions
without any third party validation.